Cancer: “I’m back again, and this time I’m coming after your family…”
Me: “Oh, helllz no.”
My dear mother, the rock of our family, the woman who was by my side during every single doctor appointment, chemo, surgery…the woman who does everything right–who takes great care of herself, eats all the right things, exercises regularly, remembers to take her vitamins, doesn’t drink or smoke, who has dedicated her life to helping other people–has cancer.
I know. I can’t believe it either…
The news has been a pretty big shock to all of us. Honestly, I’m still not sure it’s completely sunk in. We’re not even sure what kind of cancer it is, or where the primary source is…and the doctors say we may never know, which is frustrating AS SHIT. But, what we do know, is that my mom is one strong ass woman and that she’s up to the challenge.
My Mom is taking on cancer, and I’m blogging about it…
Meet my mother, Juliana. She’s a special lady–a patient and loving wife, mother, sister and aunt, a fantastic and trusting friend, a caring and compassionate nurse of 37+ years and overall positive presence to everyone that is lucky enough to know her. She’s a great cook, has superb musical taste and a knack for enjoying life that is contagious.
3 weeks ago today, my mom was admitted to the hospital. She hadn’t been feeling well for a couple of months…she wasn’t able to eat regularly and was having a lot of pain. When she finally couldn’t take it anymore and went to the emergency room with severe abdominal and back pain, we never, in our wildest dreams, thought that cancer was the culprit. Fast forward 3 weeks, and this woman has been through the ringer–3 hospitals, 2 surgeries, too many doctors, residents, nurses, IV’s, bowel preps, scans and tests and diagnoses to count–and still no firm diagnosis.
After about a week in the hospital, the word cancer starting getting thrown around. First, they were convinced that it was ovarian cancer. Then they thought colon. All of her symptoms were related to her digestive system but the previous diagnosis of IBS and/or colitis proved to be wrong. When they couldn’t figure it out exactly what was still making her so sick, they decided the best option was to open her up and take a look around.
The surgeons told us that a full hysterectomy and a colon resection to remove the cancer were both options. Well, neither of those things happened. When they opened her up, they found the tumor off of her pancreas–it is fused to a bunch of other organs, and at this point, it isn’t operable. She woke up from surgery with an ileostomy bag, a feeding tube and news that a preliminary diagnosis of pancreatic cancer was their best guess. They also took a bunch of biopsies of the tumor and sent those off to be analyzed.
At that moment, devastation and shock pretty much took over. Pancreatic or some form of unclassified cancer was not the news we wanted or expected. The fear and frustration of not having an exact diagnosis or treatment plan is really hard. But luckily (or unluckily), we’ve been through this before. When it comes to cancer, we Piazzas have experience. Some days have been really tough, especially on my mom, but also on everyone who is supporting her through this. We’ve managed to stay pretty positive and optimistic and as preliminary pathology reports from the biopsies come back a plan for fighting this cancer is slowly coming together.
What we do know at this point, is that she has a pretty large malignant tumor off of her pancreas and that the cancer cells have begun to spread to other organs in her abdomen. The biopsies show poorly differentiated cells, so ovarian, pancreatic, breast and other types of cancer all have to be considered as possible sources or origins when developing a treatment plan. We’ve got her at Allegheny General Hospital (these are the folks who saved my life, TWICE) and her oncology team is going to develop a chemo regimen that can fight all of those cancers.
Right now, the #1 priority is to get her healed, healthy and home so that she can start chemo and get to shrinking that tumor and kicking cancer’s ass. That’s what I want to #tellcancer
November 9, 2014 at 8:48 pm
We know you Piazza’ s are tough and we will keep the prayers coming. Every since I heard about Juliana, she has been on my mind. We will keep your family in our thoughts and prayers. If We can help in any way please let us know. Stay strong and fight that cancer! What a wonderful blog about your mom Tia.
November 9, 2014 at 9:02 pm
Jules, thinking of you and will keep you in my prayers.
November 9, 2014 at 11:49 pm
Prayers for one rock solid lady…and one rock solid family, love you all.
November 10, 2014 at 1:33 am
The Bilo-Piazza-Markwas, hell even McNeil clans are strong and fierce. Jule, you have the background and faith to fight this. Your Wheeling “family” are praying for you and your family. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. God Bless you with His love and support through this tough time.
November 10, 2014 at 1:38 am
Tia…If you guys need anything just let us know….we will be happy to give you guys a hand if we can. You guys are in our prayers….God Bless.
November 10, 2014 at 1:42 pm
Praying for you and your Mother 💜
November 10, 2014 at 2:11 pm
Prayers to your family Tia! And kick ass Juliana! Will be thinking about you!
November 10, 2014 at 4:49 pm
Jules….I’m a dear friend of Sylvia’s and have known you and your daughters through her for many years. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Let your faith in God help you to stay strong and positive. We love you and God Bless.
November 10, 2014 at 5:18 pm
Thinking and praying everyday.
November 11, 2014 at 5:02 pm
This is Reinette Jackovic, a friend of Lynne Goroncy’s. When I discovered two years ago that I had breast cancer, Lynne shared your story with me and I have followed your blog. Fortunately, my tumor was a small one that was removed with a lumpectomy followed by radiation. The experience definitely allowed me to feel more compassion for individuals who get the disease and families who suffer with them. Please know that I will keep all of you in prayer. Your family’s love and support are important weapons in “Kicking Cancer’s ass”. Don’t lose faith.
November 12, 2014 at 12:48 am
Tia,Juliann–I,too, am a friend of Sylvia and I know your Mom. Met u when u were just a tyke Enolled her in St. Jude Society. Keep this in mind-When things go wrong as they sometimes will, when the road your’re trudging seems all up hill, when the funds are low, and your debts are high, and you want to smile but you have to sigh, when care is pressing you down a bit , REST IF YOU MUST, BUT DON’T YOU QUIT! Knowing all of you I know you won’t. God bless & keep all of you in His care, ALL of you are on many prayer lists in Wheeling and Benwood.
Trudy Forster
November 12, 2014 at 7:47 pm
Thoughts and prayers are with all of you.May God give you the strength and fortitude to get you through this difficult time. Always Sally Kleeh
November 12, 2014 at 9:25 pm
Hey Jul thinking about u everday and praying that the good lord will wrap his arms around u and squeeze this terrible disease out of u. Stay strong cause u always were and will be . That was so beautiful what your daughter said about u I got the privilege only to work with and I seen for myself how wonderful you are and the good lord above knows this and I know he will be by your side through this terrible time god bless u and your family . My prays are with u all . If I can help in any way please do not hesitate to ask luv ya Jul
November 15, 2014 at 6:38 pm
Jule,I’m a friend of Sylvia’s. I’ve met
you and your beautiful girls.God
Bless you and keep you strong.
You’re in my prayers.
January 29, 2015 at 8:16 pm
Jule I work with Sylvia and a friend. Stay tough and positive. Sending positive energy!! Patti Kyle